Illness and death of loved ones is devastating for anyone at any age. We are specifically gathering young adults because we’ve found that the experience of grief in this community can sometimes come with its own unique isolation that we want to help undo. Grief support geared specifically towards young adults is scarce in comparison to grief support for older adults and children. For some young adults, they are among the first in their friend group to lose someone close, which can leave them without a peer community to turn to. Especially in the midst of a pandemic that is preventing folks from gathering and grieving in the ways we have in the past, we want to connect young adults to volunteer grief workers who can offer company in the wild ride of grief, and to other young adults who can say “me too.”
Yes, absolutely. Loss takes many forms beyond illness and physical death — life-altering changes in employment, housing, education and training, and access to stability and predictability are all especially present during this pandemic. We hope for everyone to receive the support they need in navigating these various forms of grief. For now, with our limited resources and capacities, we are responding directly to the swelling of life-threatening illness and death from COVID-19. We are focusing on specific grief for a specific crowd so we can do that really well.
The network is organized by volunteers. We are a group of therapists, chaplains, and community organizers who saw an emerging need and decided to respond with this network. Many of us are young adults who have experienced big personal losses ourselves, and know how powerful it can be to have company in grief. This network is a representation of the community we need and are helping to create in the world.
The network was inspired and supported in part by the leadership of the NYC COVID Care Network and RUACH: Emotional and Spiritual Support. We are grateful for the individuals who consulted with us and for our ongoing partnerships.
For a complete list of the network organizers and affiliates, please click here.
As a 100% volunteer-run mutual aid network, we facilitate the connection of young adults who are grieving the illness or death of someone to COVID-19 to volunteer grief workers who are willing and able to offer support. Our volunteer grief workers come from many different backgrounds: some are trained social workers, therapists, spiritual directors, chaplains, or clergy or lay people with chaplaincy training. Some of our volunteers are current graduate school students in these fields, studying towards a professional degree. Others identify as healing practitioners from mindfulness or other healing modalities. Some of our volunteers come from a peer facilitation background, and have a loss story of their own that motivated them to learn to hold space for others. All of our volunteers self-identify as trained “grief workers,” folks who know how to show up for and listen to people who are grieving. Our volunteers do not, however, provide professional, clinical, or therapeutic services through the network, regardless of their history of training.
Our mission is to provide immediate, short term support and build long term connection. Initially, we offer short term one-on-one grief support (between 2-6 sessions), as well as group support (8 sessions). After these sessions, your volunteer grief worker can refer you to local service agencies for long term support, if needed. Also, as a member of the COVID Grief Network, you will have continued access to group spaces with other young adults in grief, like our online community.
As a 100% volunteer-run mutual aid network, we connect young adults in grief to volunteer grief workers who are willing and able to offer support. Our volunteer grief workers come from many different backgrounds: some are trained social workers, therapists, spiritual directors, chaplains, or clergy or lay people with chaplaincy training. Some of our volunteers are current graduate school students in these fields, studying towards a professional degree. Others identify as healing practitioners from mindfulness or other healing modalities. Some of our volunteers come from a peer facilitation background, and have a loss story of their own that motivated them to learn to hold space for others. All of our volunteers self-identify as trained “grief workers,” folks who know how to show up for and listen to people who are grieving. Our volunteers do not, however, provide professional, clinical, or therapeutic services through the network, regardless of their history of training.
Our goal is to facilitate a supportive connection with a volunteer grief worker. When possible, we use the information you provide in your “Request for Support” form to inform our matching process. We encourage you to include any specific preferences and we will do our best to accommodate them.
Not everyone can be a perfect match! We first recommend respectful, thoughtful, and direct communication with your volunteer grief worker around what may or may not be working. If sharing directly doesn’t work, that’s what the COVID Grief Network organizers are here for! Please contact us here and tell us a little bit about what’s not working and how we can better support you. Someone from our team will reach out shortly after you complete the form.
We’re so glad you want to share this experience with others! In this time of great need, we would love to offer this service to everyone. Right now we’re focusing on offering support to folks in their 20s and 30s who have lost someone close to COVID-19, or who currently have someone close seriously ill with COVID-19. If your partner or someone in your family fits the bill, they are welcome to fill out a “request for support” form for one-on-one and/or group support!
We are excited to offer grief support groups to young adults in their 20s and 30s. As a member of the Network, you can receive 1:1 support, group support, or both. Groups are organized into cohorts of up to 12 young adults who have experienced a covid loss, and these groups meet weekly for 1.5 hours over the course of 8 weeks. We ask that group members commit to showing up each week; these are intended as spaces where a small group of young adults can build community together.
These groups are lightly facilitated by volunteers within our Network who have group facilitation and grief support experience, though we hold that these groups are primarily peer-directed by the group members themselves. We have found that the magic of these groups lies in the balance of a flexible, responsive, and moderately structured space where the hopes and wishes of the young adults in the group largely determine group direction, conversation, and process. We form groups based on indicated shared availability for meeting times, as well as shared loss and identity experiences. Young adults in our groups share that they’ve cultivated connection and community that they have not found elsewhere in their lives — they’ve found people who really get what it means to grieve a covid loss.
We see grief work taking a variety of forms in this present moment. While we are primarily composed of therapists, chaplains, spiritual directors, grief counselors, facilitators, coaches, mindfulness practitioners, and healers, anyone 18 or older who self-identifies as a trained volunteer grief worker may apply here to volunteer in the COVID Grief Network.
No, you do not need to be licensed to qualify as a volunteer grief worker. We recognize that students, those in training, and those who practice in unlicensed modalities are among those skilled in offering grief support, and we welcome them.
Please note that even if a volunteer is licensed, they will only be providing grief support, and will not be providing professional mental health or spiritual care under their licensure.
To ensure that our network runs smoothly and that young adults feel supported in the ways that we hope, the following are the commitments we expect volunteers to uphold:
Amazing! We all have different skills to bring to the table. We are also looking for support with these roles:
If any of these roles appeal to you, please reach out at covidgriefnetwork@gmail.com and let us know about your interest.
As a volunteer grief worker, you will have access to the support of the other volunteer grief workers in your pod, your pod facilitator, and the network at large.
We do not supervise or extensively train volunteers. Volunteers are onboarded into the network through a short training, and are given a sense of our values, orientation, purpose, and the legal bounds of the support they can offer. They are connected to and supported by each other in pods of 10 volunteer peers and can opt-in to more support if they like. We are operating on a mutual aid model; we connect individuals who need supportive listening to those who’ve said they can provide it.
Please note: even the volunteers that are licensed therapists are not offering “therapy” in their work through the network; they are offering short-term, supportive listening for young adults in need.
